Tired of Being Strong?

Being called strong is not always a compliment. Sometimes it means people have gotten used to you carrying more than your share.

If this sounds familiar, therapy or coaching may be a place to begin.

This video may give language to something you have been carrying quietly. Therapy and coaching offer a more personal space to slow down, tell the truth about what you are carrying, and begin making room for support, boundaries, care, and relationships where you do not have to carry everything alone.

Watch the Episode

Episode 1

Tired of Being Strong? The Cost of Being the One Everyone Leans On

In this first episode of Please Don't Call Me Strong Right Now, Dr. Erica Wilkins talks about what can happen when strength stops being one part of who a woman is and becomes all people expect from her.

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Episode 2

Men, Don't Just Call Her Strong—Ask How She's Really Doing | Lewis Johnson

What do women really mean when they say, “Please don’t call me strong right now”? In this episode, Dr. Erica Wilkins is joined by licensed professional counselor and trauma therapist Lewis Johnson for an honest conversation about what Black women may need from the men who love, work with, and depend on them.

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Episode 3

Does God Really Want You to Keep Pushing?

What happens when being “strong” starts to feel less like faithfulness—and more like exhaustion? In this episode of Please Don’t Call Me Strong Right Now, Dr. Erica Wilkins is joined by Johna Hill, an award-winning speaker, author, entrepreneur, and faith-driven storyteller, for a conversation about strength, rest, burnout, and support through a spiritual lens.

What this series explores

Why being called strong can feel complicated

Over-functioning and emotional exhaustion

Emotional editing and "sounding fine"

Guilt around needing help

The difference between admiration and support

What women may need instead of more praise for carrying too much

This may be for you if…

  • You are often the one people call when something needs to be handled.

  • You look capable on the outside but feel tired underneath.

  • You are praised for being dependable but rarely asked what you need.

  • You feel guilty resting or asking for help.

  • You are tired of being admired for carrying responsibilities that were never meant to be yours alone.

An invitation

You do not have to keep performing strength.

If this video feels close to your life, therapy can be a place where you do not have to keep being impressive, composed, or endlessly capable. If we work together, we can look at the patterns that have kept you over-functioning and begin making room for support that is honest, practical, and emotionally real. Learn more about trauma-informed therapy for high-achieving women.

This video and series are for information and reflection. They are not therapy and do not replace mental health care. Watching these videos does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 988 or go to your nearest emergency room.

Ready to stop carrying it all alone?

If this sounds familiar and you are located in Pennsylvania, I invite you to schedule a free consultation.